« Blame - Would you let someone else stop you? | Main | Our Toxic World - Part II »
Friday
Jul162010

Love ....

I had a conversation with a friend the other day. He was talking about his love for his girlfriend and how he feels vulnerable because he loves her so much, and she isn't sure she reciprocates. He's willing to keep his heart out there in spite of his fear.

It reminded me of a movie I saw a few years ago, Black Orchid with Nicholas Cage. I didn't really like the movie much but there was one scene where he was talking to his brother, also played by Nicholas, about a girl he had been in love with in high school. Nicholas 1 said to Nicholas 2, that he had just been decimated by the girl, and how had he been able to tolerate that? Nicholas 2 said back, "it wasn't about her, it was about my love for her." That sentence changed my whole perspective on love. I had spent my life waiting for someone to love me and to feel that love coming from someone, but it was really mine to feel and give.

We often tell people that when they're angry, it isn't about that other person. Its usually about some anger they are holding inside from a long time ago, and its just triggered by an interaction now. Well love is the same way. We have it inside of us all the time, just waiting to come up. When we fall in love, it is our love to give, and our love to feel, regardless of whether it's reciprocated by the object of our affection.

 

 

 

Reader Comments (2)

Hey
Thats a very nice blog on Love.
Its not about the other person.Its about your love for the other person.
You write well

Vishal

October 6, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterVISHAL PANDE

Nice post. I read total Post. It’s really nice. Thank you for sharing.........

Alpha Lipoic Acid

December 27, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAlpha Lipoic Acid

PostPost a New Comment

Enter your information below to add a new comment.

My response is on my own website »
Author Email (optional):
Author URL (optional):
Post:
 
Some HTML allowed: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <code> <em> <i> <strike> <strong>